What it Means to Have Relationship ADD

Soooo...... Relationship ADD. Let's talk about it.

Yesterday, I made the comment on the air that I have relationship ADD. For some reason, that caused a lot of feedback. Some people thought it was funny that I said it. Others questioned what I meant by it. Let me go ahead and make this abundantly clear.

1. I don't call you if I have nothing to talk about. Why? Because I absolutely HATE IT when people call me and say things like, "Tell me something good." Don't look for me to be your entertainment. I have things to do. Besides, if YOU called ME, that means YOU have something to say. Correct?

Trust and believe, when I have something to say to you, I'll call. And yes, I do randomly call my family and friends just to check on them; but once I know they're okay, I get off the phone, unless the conversation progresses. To me, sitting and holding the phone is akin to sitting in a pew, listening to a preacher hoop and holler without making a cohesive sermon. It's pointless and a waste of time, and in such cases, I've probably already zoned out.

2. I prefer quality over quantity. Being this way can be both a blessing and a curse. Here's why. I don't feel the need to go a lot of places. I'm far from an introvert, though. I just like being around the people who know me and aren't halfway alarmed by what might come out of my mouth. However, staying within my circle (which is primarily my family) probably hinders me from developing meaningful relationships, but at the same time it also keeps me from being hurt by relationship failure.

3. I like people who have their own things going on. Most of my friends have regular jobs as well as hustles. Because of this, they don't have a lot of free time, which means they are less focused on not hearing from others and choose instead to maximize the time they do have with others. When you're hustling, your schedule doesn't always match the free time of others. Most busy people understand this.

The strange thing about all of this is that I'm quite the nurturer, and I'm very affectionate. I know on the surface, it seems like I'm hard and uncaring, but the fact of the matter is that once a person has my heart, whether that be on a friendship level or whatever the relationship may be, that person has my undivided attention. Psychologists call this "hyper-focusing" for people with actual ADD/ADHD. The hard part is getting to the level where hyper-focusing is even possible. I guess that amounts to capturing quite a bit of interest at the onset.