It has been almost five years since my Mother has passed. I lost her to dementia. That was hard. It still is. Honestly, sometimes I don’t know if I’ve “properly” grieved. But, do you ever really get over something like that?

Sunday, May 9, 2021, is Mother’s Day. For me, holidays are typically not fun. Mother’s Day is the worst. Then followed by Thanksgiving, which was her favorite holiday. For me, Mother’s Day is a way to pay tribute to the person who gave us life and honor motherhood.

I remember like it was yesterday, bringing her a handful of white carnations. My smile was from ear to ear. During a craft session in school, I learned that carnations were the “official” Mother’s Day flower. She loved them.

There are lots of wonderful memories of my Mother. I hold on to them tight. I hope that I never lose them. But, what do you when your Mother isn’t here to be celebrated?

So, no matter how long it’s been since you lost your Mother. Whether it's 3 months, 3 years, or 30 years, I understand. Spending Mother’s Day without your mom is hard.

To everyone that has lost their Mother, be strong this upcoming Sunday. I know how rough it can be. Honestly, let yourself be in the moment. It’s ok to cry no matter what your age.

I have found being active on Mother’s Day has helped me. Here are some ways that I have honored my Mother after her passing.

Bake her favorite cake.

Plant her favorite flowers.

Take the day off from everything.

Create a scrapbook with pictures of you and your mom.

Go to her favorite restaurant. (That was anything Mexican for my mom.)

(My Mother’s hobby was arts, crafts, and painting) You can paint a picture.

Whatever you decide to do or not do, be kind to yourself. Your Mother would have wanted that for you.

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