Stupid Things We Women Do

I’m not one to regularly rant, but this one is long overdue.  Since common sense is becoming less common, and so many people refuse to say what’s right, opting instead to pacify our friends and family in the name of being “supportive,”  I decided to take a minute to address some of the stupid things we as women do or say.

Stupid things women do/say:

1.  When a young man approaches one of our girlfriends or relatives and expresses an interest in her:

“Girl, he ain’t about nothing.  He tried to talk to me!”

Do you know how stupid that sounds? So, because he expressed an interest in you, he’s not worthy of being loved?  He can’t be about anything because he liked YOU!  What does that say about how you view yourself?  Does the fact that you rejected him mean he can’t be a good man for someone else? Or is it that he can’t be attracted to the both of you because you’re so different from each other? Well, good! Perhaps your friend or relative is a better match. Jealous because you made a bad decision and passed up on a great guy who is now interested in someone else? Is that what it is? Stop trying to keep your friend alone because you are.

2.  We’ll spend our last dollars to get our hair done, nails manicured, a new outfit and accessories…. Only to sit around the house and wait for someone to invite us to go somewhere at their treat.  What’s the sense in doing of all that and not allot yourself any money to go somewhere where others will see you with your fabulous-around-the-house self? You can buy a full manicure set for $1. Do your own nails and save $20 for an outing so you won’t have to sit around cute but hungry while your friends are eating well!

3.  “You know he probably has all kinds of women trying to holler at him.”

AND? If a man expresses interest in a woman, it doesn’t matter how many other women are interested in him. Where his interest lies is where his interest lies. In essence, what you’re saying is that there is no way your friend can compete with others. Relationships are about compatibility, not competition.

4.  “Why did she wear that?”

Because she wanted to! Furthermore, you don’t know what a person has to sacrifice in order to attend certain events or support loved ones.  Apparently, what the other woman wore is what she thought looked best for the occasion, considering her budget or lack thereof; or she simply wore what she liked.  Personal style is just that: personal.  Not everyone is going to like the same thing, and it’s ok.

5.  Hating the new chick.

This is not necessarily about relationships, although it certainly fits there too. Why dislike the new lady in a man’s life when she’s done nothing to you? I think subconsciously, we think that because a man has moved on, he sees his new love as better than us, which isn’t necessarily true.  It doesn’t mean he sees her as a better person.  Sometimes, she’s just a better fit.  Some men don’t want women that love them the way they were meant to be loved.  Some need a ½ way lover because ½ is all the man is willing to give, and they’d rather be with someone more like them than mistreat a woman that doesn’t deserve it.

Again, relationships aren’t the only situations where that fits.  Sometimes, women don’t like the new friend of an old friend. Many say it’s intuition, but it’s usually just jealousy. We don’t want anyone to take our places in the lives of our loved ones, as if a newcomer has the ability to destroy a lifetime of memories.

I’m done for today.  I’m sure I’ll be back with more later. These are just some examples I’ve encountered recently multiple times.  I get tired of saying the same thing over and over. So, I decided to put it out there. If you have a friend or relative that needs to know any of these, feel free to share this article. And fellas, if her girlfriend is blocking, share it!